Rhetorical question for the day: why is there a need to get engaged straight after leaving uni??
In the past 7 days, two of my good friends have announced their engagement. In the past 2 months, I have attended two weddings. One could misconstrue these numbers into thinking I am quite popular, being invited to all these weddings and all. Truth be told, I’m not that popular but rather getting married young seems back in vogue.
It’s damn scary. Remind me, when did I leave my innocent happy-go-lucky world for the land of maturity? Just because we enter the work force does not mean babies should be popping out next!
The fantastical conversations I had with girlfriends about the style of our wedding dress and what song we would dance to for the wedding waltz are no longer fictional. Weddings of older siblings/cousins/family friends are the days of old. The vague plans of when and how many children we want are now cautiously being calculated. It seems like there’s a step missing in the growing up process. Not quite a student yet not quite a grown up with a mortgage.
Personally, I’m still learning to contain my excitement at inspecting my inflated bank account on a fortnightly basis. I’m reveling in the pleasure of not having my weekends full of assignments and course readings. I’m loving the fact that people ask for my opinion in the workplace, and furthermore it is somewhat respected. I don’t have to answer ambiguously when someone asks me what I do. I’m assuming the responsibility of paying for drinks when I’m around other students. These seem like normal stages in the post uni phase……..
I kind of feel like Tevya from Fiddler on the Roof lamenting in the song Sunrise Sunset: “I don’t remember growing older, when did they??”
On the other hand, my dear friends who have just announced their engagement are the happiest they have ever been. They have waited patiently until they finished uni, started working and saved money so they can build a fulfilling life together. They have found the ‘right’ one and want to celebrate this with friends and family. And despite any misgivings I have about my own phase of life, I am ecstatic that they are doing what is best for them.
Best of all, it means I get to party away at an extra 2 weddings!!
Comments
I'm glad you wrote a post on the topic so I don't (mazel tov KB&DK/LK&MM! When did she get to be a beauty?
When did he get to be so tall?)
But what about those of us without inflated bank accounts who still need to pay for wedding presents??
See you at the parties!
Posted by: Joel Nothman | March 7, 2007 07:06 AM